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Post by lrtill on Sept 28, 2009 17:41:05 GMT -5
I am devastated to have just heard of a possible murder suicide involving a UPD employee and spouse. This was a family with 4 children and I beleieve an 8 yo found his parents. Why? Why do these things happen? So much pain in the world! I can't even think what to say right now.
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Post by Clipper on Sept 28, 2009 22:11:31 GMT -5
Very sad. Very selfish and unfeeling to his own children. I also found it really strange that a cop, who would possess a weapon of some sort, would kill himself with a knife. That has got to be a really hard thing to do. One would think that he would have shot himself if he wanted to commit suicide.
It is really sad that all of these kids are in the most formative of years, and will now have to live with this tragedy. Talk about emotionally devastating. It would be sad enough if they had died in an accident.
I will only hope and pray that there are grandparents or someone "family" to take these kids and raise them. It would be very sad for them to end up in the foster care system because their father killed their mother and then himself.
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Post by lrtill on Sept 29, 2009 7:37:44 GMT -5
It certainly is sad, selfish, I don't know. I doubt anyone who loses control to that extend is thinking in any way or form. I doubt he took time to consider the repercussions at that time. I can't imagine that kind of rage. What makes some people able to live through the most stressful of situations perhaps time and again over their lives and not snap and do something like this, while others just some how go over the edge. I didn't know this police officer but my dear dear friend who's like a son to me is UPD and I know this is a very hard time for a lot of people. I've read some comments saying things like "surprise, another police officer committing a crime" - what the hell? This had nothing to do with him being a police officer and I resent it being made about being in law enforcement - are people stupid!
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Post by concerned on Sept 29, 2009 9:12:18 GMT -5
This is very sad. Something in there marriage must have made him snap. To kill his wife there had to be something not right in there marriage. Topix has had messages that stated that he was cheating on his wife and that his wife had some type of emotional and psychological problems. I wonder if he killed her because he was threatened by her and what she was going to make public. So he might have killed her to keep he silent. He might have then killed himself out of grief or so as not have to go through a trial, etc. This is such a shame. I hope they are resting in peace. I have a relative that knows them. I am sure that the children will be taken care of.
I guess we will never know what makes some people go over the edge. But they do. If they only sought help in the first place then these kind of things would not occur.
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Post by corner on Sept 29, 2009 9:25:18 GMT -5
This is very sad. Something in there marriage must have made him snap. To kill his wife there had to be something not right in there marriage. Topix has had messages that stated that he was cheating on his wife and that his wife had some type of emotional and psychological problems. I wonder if he killed her because he was threatened by her and what she was going to make public. So he might have killed her to keep he silent. He might have then killed himself out of grief or so as not have to go through a trial, etc. This is such a shame. I hope they are resting in peace. I have a relative that knows them. I am sure that the children will be taken care of. I guess we will never know what makes some people go over the edge. But they do. If they only sought help in the first place then these kind of things would not occur. the best thing you can do for the truth or the facts is stay off of topix |
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Post by concerned on Sept 29, 2009 10:22:10 GMT -5
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Post by rodwilson on Sept 29, 2009 11:49:28 GMT -5
I'm only posting this to further stem errant speculation. They were going through an ugly divorce. He wanted to reconcile but she was not interested and he failed to accept that.
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Post by Clipper on Sept 29, 2009 14:24:46 GMT -5
They were in family court yesterday morning. It is sad that the OD has to publish that sort of thing right out of the box in order to sensationalize their story. Joe Longo will probably become the next Matt Sullivan to be be buried in one sided crap while his good deeds go unspoken. The man was under a lot of stress and he cracked. Right or wrong, he was not mentally stable at the time. People are driven to irrational deeds when their life seems to be going down the toilet. Take it from one who has been divorced. It is a heartbreaking and traumatic event in one's life.
I hope that the community and the news media will concentrate on the tragedy, and on the welfare of the children, and not spend their time in rabid desire to hear all the dirty details of a man and woman's marital difficulty dragged through the press.
Maybe the OD can take a moment and publish the reasons why it has not made the paper that Andrew Donovan has allegedly been arrested and tried for a second offense DWI, and as in the last incident, he said to have been arrested in Utica, but tried in the New Hartford Town Courts.
I would like to know if that is a true story, and I would like to know the particulars. It seems that the OD is very hypocritical and biased in who and what they publish stories about, and how aggressively they pursue the story.
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Post by gearofzanzibar on Sept 29, 2009 16:23:14 GMT -5
I hope that the community and the news media will concentrate on the tragedy, and on the welfare of the children, and not spend their time in rabid desire to hear all the dirty details of a man and woman's marital difficulty dragged through the press. The problem is that the dirty little details of officer Longo's life may, indeed, be matters of some public importance. If Mrs. Longo complained multiple times to police that her husband was threatening to kill her and they did nothing....well, the liability issues are obvious. Not to mention the troubling idea that they would both still be alive if those complaints had been taken more seriously. Please tell me you're kidding. If that's true it not only needs to be made public, but Ms. Donovan needs to resign. |
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Post by concerned on Sept 29, 2009 18:23:20 GMT -5
I now know what happened/ I only wish some in the family could have demanded that both got some help
And the OD also got something else wrong. They said that one child was not living at home. And that the oldest child is 17/ The eldest boy is 18 and was visiting his uncle in California.
Mrs. Longo is my nephews wife cousin I forgot I met her at my other nephews wedding this past August. I remember meeting the children. Everyone is completely devistated.
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Post by jon hynes on Sept 29, 2009 21:53:31 GMT -5
Bobbbiez just got done closing up camp and is now home.
She said "she will be spending time with my boys in case they need her. Joe was their friend and they all worked together. We're all in shock especially my boys. So very, very sad for all involved.
Please give my regards to all at Clipper's Corner. Will be back as soon as I can. Miss y'all. My blessings to all."
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Post by Clipper on Sept 29, 2009 23:02:20 GMT -5
Gear, I heard about Andrew Donovan's second offense today from someone in that area, but I have not been able to confirm it. I wish someone had a way to find out from public record up there.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2009 18:58:43 GMT -5
This is very sad. Something in there marriage must have made him snap. To kill his wife there had to be something not right in there marriage. Topix has had messages that stated that he was cheating on his wife and that his wife had some type of emotional and psychological problems. I wonder if he killed her because he was threatened by her and what she was going to make public. So he might have killed her to keep he silent. He might have then killed himself out of grief or so as not have to go through a trial, etc. This is such a shame. I hope they are resting in peace. I have a relative that knows them. I am sure that the children will be taken care of. I guess we will never know what makes some people go over the edge. But they do. If they only sought help in the first place then these kind of things would not occur. Well, that is typical of the garbage that is posted on the Topix site. It's a disgrace that scum can hide on the internet & post that kind of trash & get away with it. But, it doesn't surprise me. The site is filled with lies, character assasinations, & filth aimed at anyone that is the target of the day. Ignore it, you're better off. |
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Post by gearofzanzibar on Sept 30, 2009 20:10:41 GMT -5
Well, that is typical of the garbage that is posted on the Topix site. It's a disgrace that scum can hide on the internet & post that kind of trash & get away with it. But, it doesn't surprise me. The site is filled with lies, character assasinations, & filth aimed at anyone that is the target of the day. Ignore it, you're better off. It's an unfiltered, raucous, and occasionally brutally funny look at the collective id of the area. And, if you payed attention, you would have known months ago that Longo was cheating on his wife, who he was cheating with, how often they were doing the monkey dance, and even where they were doing it- and most of that was coming from right inside the UPD. You know, the same folks that are now doing the "I'm shocked, simply shocked!" Inspector Renault impression? If there's a lawsuit, and I'm increasingly thinking there will be for a couple of reasons, I expect the exposure of the IP addresses behind some of those postings is going to be extremely embarrassing...and potentially expensive. |
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Post by Clipper on Sept 30, 2009 20:55:33 GMT -5
That is what amazes me about Topix Gear. People don't seem to realize that an IP address is like tracks in the snow. It can be tracked, no matter what witty screen name you come up with. A court order can bring those morons to their knees if a judge REALLY wants to know who is guilty of liability in slandering someone or lying about them.
I would laugh my ass off to hear one of them bitching that investigators showed up at their doors and confiscated their computer, just like they do for kiddy porn and such.
As in most marital problems, I am sure that there was probably infidelity by one or the other, domestic violence as has been rumored, and other things. It just would be nice if just one time, the public could let it go, and the kids and families would not have to suffer the humiliation of seeing it all dragged through the press.
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